It’s common for romantic partners to also be close friends, given the time spent together and emotional intimacy shared. However, new research from Colorado State University reveals a surprising downside: people who consider their partner their best friend tend to have weaker social support outside their relationship.
Key Findings from the Study
Only 14.4% of partnered U.S. adults label their romantic partner as their best friend.
Those who do report higher companionship with their partner but significantly less social support from friends outside the relationship.
Participants who named their partner as their best friend had fewer close friendships beyond their romantic bond.
The study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, surveyed 940 U.S. adults in romantic relationships who also identified at least one best friend. Researchers assessed emotional closeness, companionship, perceived social support, stress, and loneliness.
Why Having Friends Outside Your Relationship Matters
Psychologist Joseph Laino, who was not involved in the study, explains that relying solely on a partner for friendship often means a smaller social circle. “If your romantic partner is your best friend, you likely invest less time in friendships outside the relationship,” he said. This can limit your support network, which is crucial for emotional well-being.
Data from the Pew Research Center underscores this point: 61% of Americans say close friendships are very or extremely important for a fulfilling life, compared to only 23% who say the same about marriage.
The Balance Between Romantic and Social Connections
The study highlights that while having a partner as your best friend boosts emotional closeness and companionship, it’s essential to maintain friendships outside the relationship for a balanced and healthy social life. Friends provide:
- A fresh perspective on your life
- Emotional support during relationship challenges
- A sense of identity independent of your partner
- Backup support if the relationship ends
Practical Advice for a Healthy Social Life
Nurture friendships outside your romantic relationship: Schedule regular time with friends to keep those bonds strong.
Maintain your individuality: Engage in hobbies and social activities that reflect your personal interests.
Communicate openly: Encourage your partner to also maintain their friendships, fostering mutual support networks.
Seek balance: Enjoy the companionship of your partner while valuing the unique support friends provide.
Conclusion
Having your partner as your best friend is wonderful and can deepen your emotional connection. But for a fulfilling and resilient social life, it’s vital to cultivate friendships beyond your romantic relationship. After all, a rich life is built on diverse connections that support your well-being and personal growth.
